It's not uncommon parents who divorce will sometimes go to extremes to hurt each other not thinking the people they may be hurting the most are the kids. Doctor, Denise Longoria is a licensed counselor and says when couples split, kids will sometimes blame themselves.
"It’s very common for children to feel they are to blame. The children are perhaps experiencing some of the pain as well and they're trying to deal with their own pain."
According to Longoria, parents who decide to split will sometimes hide the fact they're unhappy by trying not fight in front of the kids. You may think by fighting behind close doors your kids have no idea, but children are smarter then you think.
"I’ll have parents who say we try to avoid arguing in front of them. We'll wait until they go to sleep but children hear things."
So what are parents suppose to do? Doctor Longoria suggests reassuring the kids they are not the reason for the divorce and including them in the conversation.